Examining Priorities - part i of many
So I have done a little brainstorming around getting things prioritized and how to become an all-around person. I highlighted last week the different things in my life that are taking up my time, and the things that I want to be better at. So let’s revisit that list quickly.
Obviously all of those things are super important and things that I need to work on finding better balance and motivation with in order to better be the best person that I can be. And they all need to be deconstructed and looked at individually. Otherwise it is pretty unlikely that I will really feel as though I can make changes to these things. I mean, I am intimidated even looking at this list. So maybe the first step is to reprioritize (or prioritize in the first place) this list and maybe go from there.
I have been trying to do a little personal development reading over the last few days in hopes that I can get some guidance on all of this, and it is one of those things that makes me wish that my long time mentor did not live in Toledo (or that she was online frequently so we could email or IM or something!) so I could have someone else to bounce ideas off of… But alas, I do not, so this all comes down to me. I need to get out my feelings on this, so I can figure out how to make the most of each day as it comes, and get through the lists of priorities that I have to do every day in order to have a successful life.
Whatever that means…
I feel like when you talk about priorities, there are two schools of thought. There are those who believe that family comes first. Family before all else. If you don’t have your family, what do you have? And then there are those that say if you don’t take care of yourself, then you won’t BE a good wife/mom/dog mom/housekeeper/etc. And even in just beginning to look at these items, I am struggling to find what the “right” answer is for finding time for everything and making all of this fit into my life.
I guess in a lot of ways, I am struggling even more NOW, in a job that offers some flexibility than I was when I was in public accounting, a job that had ZERO flexibility. I know that is because I have a lot of things in my life that I did not have then, a husband, 2 dogs, a baby, a hobby that borders on obsession… but you would still think that I would have some ability to figure this out and relax and breathe a little about all of this. I have a lot of plans to really try and figure out what I need to do in order to truly find some level of balance in various aspects of my life, but naturally, I have no idea where to start.
When I mention it to Karen, she says, you can’t do it all. And I know that I can’t, but all of the things that I have on this list are priority items. Yes, some are higher priority than others (family is above work), and so these are all things that I need to do, I am just not sure how to go about figuring out some semblance of a way to manage to do all of these successfully, as none of these things are things that I can just drop. So let’s prioritize that list of 5. At least, in a way that makes sense for me at this state of my life.
Now, I am not sure if that is the most effective way of prioritizing them, and obviously some things overlap as mentioned before. However, I have to start somewhere, and having a one year old and a husband seems to be somewhere at the top of the list of things that I need to keep track of and spend time worrying about.
On top over everything, I want Addie to have it all.